When was the last time you read a book that changed your life? Okay, not completely altered it, but you know, made you change something significant in the way you think, act or speak? I picked up a few books before our trip to London last month and I’m still thinking about one of them weeks later.
MWF Seeking BFF is for any girl at the stage in her life where making new friends doesn’t come easy and keeping the old ones gets tricky. For some of us, it’s not until our mid-late twenties, but I really think the idea applies to women of all ages. At multiple points in the book I found myself thinking of my mom, sister and the friendships I’ve seen come and go in their life.
For me, it really boiled down to this. I’m at a stage where I’m stable in some areas of my life – love life and career – but friendships are difficult to maintain. We are traveling, moving, nesting and a few are hundreds of miles away. Sometimes we’re simply too “busy.” It was easy to maintain friendships when we were all on the same trajectory of life – college – but five years out, it’s not that simple. The biggest takeaway from the book (the one that still is keeping me up at night) is this–friendships are like any other relationship, they take work! And, as normal relationships go, you realize or learn the hard way that some don’t last forever. Other times you get tired of giving more than you’re getting out. Most importantly, it made me stop and appreciate the good friendships in my life no matter how old or new they are.
Following my #BFF high, I’ve started planning a big reunion with old friends in Iowa City whom I haven’t seen in a while and had some much needed phone dates. I even said some goodbyes to a guy friend who’ll be gone for a year. Normally, I’d be bummed, but instead I’m excited to make a visit to Brazil to see him in the next year and have an #OriginalInterns rager.
Has anyone else read the book? Curious to hear your thoughts. Next on my list is The Fault in Our Stars.
When Rachel Bertsche first moves to Chicago, she’s thrilled to finally share a zip code, let alone an apartment, with her boyfriend. But shortly after getting married, Bertsche realizes her new life is missing one thing: friends. Sure, she has plenty of BFFs—in New York and San Francisco and Boston and Washington DC. Yet in her adopted hometown, there’s no one to call at the last minute for girl-talk over brunch or a reality TV marathon over a bottle of wine. Taking matters into her own hands, Bertsche develops a plan: she’ll go on fifty-two friend-dates, one per week for a year, in hopes of meeting her new Best Friend Forever.
In her thought-provoking, uproarious memoir, Bertsche blends the story of her girl-dates (who she meets everywhere from improv class to friend-rental websites) with the latest in social research to examine how difficult—and hilariously awkward—it is to make new friends as an adult. She asks why women will happily announce they need a man but are embarrassed to admit they need a BFF. And she uncovers the reality that no matter how great your love life, you’ve gotta have friends.